The Two Greatest Fears, And How You Can Get Rid Of Them (2)…
Let’s revisit this for a second.
Children are born with two fears. One, is the fear of falling. The other, is the
fear of loud noises.
These fears however manifest differently as we get older. They become the
two great fears we all have.
They are the fear of failure, and the fear of rejection.
The fear of loud noises is also a built in survival mechanism. Loud noises and
disonance are most ussually warning signs to stay away from one reason or
another.
Be it the bark or growl of an angry animal, the noise and caucophany of a
storm, or the warning cry of your peers to stay away from a dangerous area.
As a child, rapidly having to move from one place to another causes us to feel
a deep sense of “Displacement”. When we feel this sense of displacement, it
causes our mind to feel like our very existence is in jeopardy.
Back to the fear of rejection. This fear causes us to feel the same feelings as
an adult that we did as a child. We oftentimes fear rejection in many areas
simply because no one likes that feeling of displacement.
Rejection, on any level, has that effect. It makes us feel separated, alone and
on an inner level, it makes us feel de-valued. We begin to question the
nature of our existence and our worth to fellow man.
Rejection is terrible.
The FEAR of rejection is even worse.
But here is a simple solution.
Most of your fear of rejection will leave you, the day you realize that no-one
really cares.
Most of the time, the people who you fear rejection from, your boss, your
spouse, a co-worker, a loved one, are mainly concerned about the details
of their own life.
They are not as concerned about you and your shortcomings as you think
they are. They are normally only concerned, to the degree which your
shortcomings intefere with their own personal agenda.
So whenever you feel rejected by someone, you are simply feeling, no
experiencing, that persons survival mechanism at work.
They are not rejecting you. They are trying to protect themselves. In the
end, no one is as concerned as you think they are.
Also remember this. There will always be someone who will love and support
what you do, and the rest, to varying degrees, simply will not care. And this
is OK.
Also, in regards to your own perceived failures or shortcomings, the people
who matter, don’t care.
And the people who care, don’t matter.
Do it anyway. You have a lot more support than you think.
