Your Two Greatest Fears, and How to Get Rid of Them (1)
You know I have learned something amazing a while ago that changed my life.
All of us are born with only two fears. All of the others, are learned.
Children are born with two fears. One, is the fear of falling. The other, is the
fear of loud noises.
These fears however manifest differently as we get older. They become the
two great fears we all have.
They are the fear of failure, and the fear of rejection.
A child needs to have a healthy fear of falling because of the danger of bodily
injury. However as adults, we translate this injury at a much deeper internal level.
We begin to learn that we can “Get Hurt” in many more ways than just
by taking a spill to the floor.
It is then that the drive of self preservation takes over. We begin to “Fear
Falling” in both public and private ways.
Just think, why don’t you make that investment?
The Fear of Falling.
Why don’t you take that course?
The Fear of Falling.
Why don’t you call that real estate agent or that investment broker or that
family member you’ve lost contact with?
Why don’t you start marketing that website or creating that ebook?
The Fear of Falling.
We all fear falling, and it’s a natural, healthy fear. This fear forces us to gather
as much information as neccesary, to ensure we make choices that are not
damaging to us.
It is only when this fear begins to paralyze us, and make us perform at less
than optimum levels that we have a problem.
So how do get over this fear?
Simple. Not easy, but simple.
You get over the fear of failure by doing one thing.
Do The Thing You Fear, and The Death of Fear is Certain.
Make a habit of doing the thing you fear first and you will begin to discover
just how quickly your fears dissipate. It is almost always, “Not as bad as you
think”, and you will get a rush of excitement, bravery and increased self
esteem when you practice doing the things you fear, FIRST.
Secondly, always ask yourself two questions every time you enter into a
situation in which you were afraid and feel like you didn’t do your best.
First ask yourself, “What did I do right”.
Most of us ask the wrong question. We ask, “What did we do wrong”, and
thereby you train your mind to repeat the wrong performance.
When you make a habit of asking yourself, “What did I do right”, the next
time you are in a similar situation, your mind begins to say, “Oh, I’ve been
here before, and these are the right things to do”.
Secondly, always ask yourself, “What could I do better, next time”.
When you ask this question, your mind begins to dig deep into the resevoirs
of your subconcious, like a search engine, and begin to pull up ideas, theories
and techniques that will ultimately show you how to perform better.
When you make a habit of doing the things you fear first, and asking yourself
these two questions, you become unstoppable.
Deep inside, you really do have everything you need, now.
You are fearless. You can do anything.
