The World Is Full Of Problems…
Did you ever think about the world being so full of problems?
I think about it constantly. It is the reason life is so beautiful.
If no one in this world had any problems, we wouldn’t need each other,
at all.
Every problem, needs a solution. Every solution needs a vessel to carry
out the solution.
In short, problems are here to get us to help each other.
No problems, no interaction.
Problems? Now we need to interact, sometimes, whether we like it or not.
This is the beauty of problems. They are all really “opportunities” for us to
“render aid” to our fellow travellers throughout this life, into the next.
So in short, “The world is full of problems” simply means…
“The World Is Full Of Opportunity”
Whatever problem you equip yourself to solve, therein lies your opportunity.
Every problem that you face is merly a relationship waiting to happen.
Embrace it.
Embrace your purpose and embrace the relationships you were meant to,
yes “designed” to create.
You are a living breathing solution.
“The World Is Full Of Problems”
Now go, and find your opportunity.
The Two Greatest Fears, And How You Can Get Rid Of Them (2)…
Let’s revisit this for a second.
Children are born with two fears. One, is the fear of falling. The other, is the
fear of loud noises.
These fears however manifest differently as we get older. They become the
two great fears we all have.
They are the fear of failure, and the fear of rejection.
The fear of loud noises is also a built in survival mechanism. Loud noises and
disonance are most ussually warning signs to stay away from one reason or
another.
Be it the bark or growl of an angry animal, the noise and caucophany of a
storm, or the warning cry of your peers to stay away from a dangerous area.
As a child, rapidly having to move from one place to another causes us to feel
a deep sense of “Displacement”. When we feel this sense of displacement, it
causes our mind to feel like our very existence is in jeopardy.
Back to the fear of rejection. This fear causes us to feel the same feelings as
an adult that we did as a child. We oftentimes fear rejection in many areas
simply because no one likes that feeling of displacement.
Rejection, on any level, has that effect. It makes us feel separated, alone and
on an inner level, it makes us feel de-valued. We begin to question the
nature of our existence and our worth to fellow man.
Rejection is terrible.
The FEAR of rejection is even worse.
But here is a simple solution.
Most of your fear of rejection will leave you, the day you realize that no-one
really cares.
Most of the time, the people who you fear rejection from, your boss, your
spouse, a co-worker, a loved one, are mainly concerned about the details
of their own life.
They are not as concerned about you and your shortcomings as you think
they are. They are normally only concerned, to the degree which your
shortcomings intefere with their own personal agenda.
So whenever you feel rejected by someone, you are simply feeling, no
experiencing, that persons survival mechanism at work.
They are not rejecting you. They are trying to protect themselves. In the
end, no one is as concerned as you think they are.
Also remember this. There will always be someone who will love and support
what you do, and the rest, to varying degrees, simply will not care. And this
is OK.
Also, in regards to your own perceived failures or shortcomings, the people
who matter, don’t care.
And the people who care, don’t matter.
Do it anyway. You have a lot more support than you think.
Your Two Greatest Fears, and How to Get Rid of Them (1)
You know I have learned something amazing a while ago that changed my life.
All of us are born with only two fears. All of the others, are learned.
Children are born with two fears. One, is the fear of falling. The other, is the
fear of loud noises.
These fears however manifest differently as we get older. They become the
two great fears we all have.
They are the fear of failure, and the fear of rejection.
A child needs to have a healthy fear of falling because of the danger of bodily
injury. However as adults, we translate this injury at a much deeper internal level.
We begin to learn that we can “Get Hurt” in many more ways than just
by taking a spill to the floor.
It is then that the drive of self preservation takes over. We begin to “Fear
Falling” in both public and private ways.
Just think, why don’t you make that investment?
The Fear of Falling.
Why don’t you take that course?
The Fear of Falling.
Why don’t you call that real estate agent or that investment broker or that
family member you’ve lost contact with?
Why don’t you start marketing that website or creating that ebook?
The Fear of Falling.
We all fear falling, and it’s a natural, healthy fear. This fear forces us to gather
as much information as neccesary, to ensure we make choices that are not
damaging to us.
It is only when this fear begins to paralyze us, and make us perform at less
than optimum levels that we have a problem.
So how do get over this fear?
Simple. Not easy, but simple.
You get over the fear of failure by doing one thing.
Do The Thing You Fear, and The Death of Fear is Certain.
Make a habit of doing the thing you fear first and you will begin to discover
just how quickly your fears dissipate. It is almost always, “Not as bad as you
think”, and you will get a rush of excitement, bravery and increased self
esteem when you practice doing the things you fear, FIRST.
Secondly, always ask yourself two questions every time you enter into a
situation in which you were afraid and feel like you didn’t do your best.
First ask yourself, “What did I do right”.
Most of us ask the wrong question. We ask, “What did we do wrong”, and
thereby you train your mind to repeat the wrong performance.
When you make a habit of asking yourself, “What did I do right”, the next
time you are in a similar situation, your mind begins to say, “Oh, I’ve been
here before, and these are the right things to do”.
Secondly, always ask yourself, “What could I do better, next time”.
When you ask this question, your mind begins to dig deep into the resevoirs
of your subconcious, like a search engine, and begin to pull up ideas, theories
and techniques that will ultimately show you how to perform better.
When you make a habit of doing the things you fear first, and asking yourself
these two questions, you become unstoppable.
Deep inside, you really do have everything you need, now.
You are fearless. You can do anything.